What is love?

Many people start getting into relationships at a very young age, some maybe at a later stage. Many changes girlfriends and boyfriends like they are changing clothes, some think that girls are just tools for sex. They get into relationship telling their partners, if you really love me, you must have sex with me. Thus girls fall into this trap of wanting to giving it to their loved one. Once u give into the boyfriend's demands, they will dump you sooner than you think.

Why is this so? Because it is the plain simple logic that once you have it and obtained something, you will not treasure it. This is the natural reaction of man. But not to worry, many people grow out of this phase of sex = love relationship because many of this thinking belong to those of youngsters.

So what is love?

Initial attraction between two person is the likeness for each other physically or the character. It is something that pulls two person to be together. Of course, there are certain reasons why two people end up together but by whatever reason it may be, if they want to end it well, it is a commitment already.


Dictionaries will define love as a feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance. I beg to defer. These are just definitions on the feelings towards each other and not a definite relationship between two.

Love relationship is a synergy between two different people from two different backgrounds, with two different character and two different thinking. Love relationship is a commitment after a certain amount of time after being together. It is the discovery of each other more than just the physical appearance and character and to build on a foundation that is being forged.

Normally love will bring a person into thoughts of being married, building a family and establishing a long term objectives. This will be a very vital part of life. A catalyst will normally propel into marriage.

But some people always take love for granted. Sometimes they neglect it because they think that love does not need maintainance. Falling in love is one thing, but not maintaining it will end up in failed relationships. Why?

It is just like getting a car and going to a certain destination. If you get a car, you need fuel and maintainace to reach a certain destination. If the car is not fueled and maintained, love will never pull through in the end.

Same in love, you may have build up a love relationship, which is the car, but you do not put in effort, which is the fuel and maintainance, sooner or later, your relationship will reach problems and obstacles in life and the relationship will break down.